Hi readers, it’s Emily and William here this week talking about disappointment.
It’s something loads of us will know about as almost all of us have had to deal with it over the last two years, with Covid cancelling our plans and leaving many of us feeling disappointed.
For me, William, I was disappointed when we went into lockdown and I had to stay indoors so much.
For me, Emily, I felt disappointed was when the date kept being put back for me to move into my new house. The goal posts kept changing - it was going to be ready by one date, then another and so on. I just wanted to get in and settled.
It also got us both thinking about what might feel disappointing for one person may not be disappointing for someone else. Even eating the same meal, one person may have a different experience of it than another. An example for us is I, William wasn’t at all disappointed when it rained at the Garden Party but I, Emily would have been because it was an outdoor event and wouldn’t have wanted to get wet!
We talked about other feelings we might have when we feel disappointed – like being cross, sad, frustrated or unhappy – and how do we manage these feelings. Say we feel disappointed because we are served a horrid meal when we’re out, we may choose to go somewhere else to have pudding, helping us to move on quickly. Other times we might change our mood by going for a walk, watching a film, calling a friend or doing something nice. One thing that can help is to remember that however rubbish we might feel at that moment, there will always be more terrible happening in the world and someone feeling far worse.
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